I’m Not Mad at Chris or Rihanna…It’s Our Society That’s a Trip!

 

I know, you are probably over the whole “Crihanna” story…so am I. I think we all are, well, young America is. There has been plenty of schoolhouse chatter, Facebook & Twitter debates and radio discussions to last us a lifetime about this young couple’s toxic ending. Today is the day after Rihanna’s exclusive 20/20 Interview and I just have to share my piece and finally lay it down to rest. This post will include commentary on Rihanna’s interview and share more of my opinion about why we as a nation are “bass ackwards” when it comes to issues of concern with our American people and our reasoning for why certain issues become newsworthy because a “celebrity” is involved.

Now allow me to dissect this whole situation from my point of view. I’m going to keep it short & sweet because I don’t know either of them personally to give a detailed opinion on how they should live or run their lives. Firstly, love was a lacking factor in their relationship. When someone is keeping in contact with their ex-lovers, caught in a lie, then beats you senseless for challenging the lie, they didn’t love you in the first place.

It is very hard for a lot of young (and even older) people to differentiate between love and lust. Love does not hurt you and it WILL NOT blind you. Love is an eye-opener and will love, protect and honor you. I was highly upset when Rihanna said “Eff love…love is blind”. No Rihanna was blind because its quite evident love was not present but her emotions were and she made the decisions to stay with and return to him based on that. Regardless to how immature and abusive C. Breezy was or is, RiRi was deceived into thinking that he loved her. Love is what kept her alive. Love is what kept him from seriously hurting her and ultimately removed her from that situation. God’s love for Rihanna and the love she discovered she had for herself.

I know you all are probably thinking the same thing my friend told me while having this discussion with her an hour ago: “well we can’t judge how we would react or what we would do because we have never been in a domestic situation”. Incorrect. I am not judging Rihanna but simply recognizing the lack of love for herself because I have been there. No, I was never physically abused but whether a man is beating you, taking advantage of you, lying to you, cheating on you, verbally abusing you, etc…it’s all PAINFUL when we as women overlook, compromise and make excuses for that man. We all get the same emotional scars and baggage-some more deeper and heavier than others-but I DO understand.

Now, the reason I say I have an issue with our society is for a couple reasons. I am like my best friend in a way; she can’t stand to be fed a confident lie. When I say a confident lie I am saying a fabrication that is wronger than buying a 99¢ stamp with a $2 bill but it is thrown in my face with the notion that I am too stupid to recognize it and will accept it. Don’t you hate when people lie to you and they have so much confidence in their own lie that it just offends you to no end that they would even spit on your intelligence that boldly?

I am not saying that what Rihanna went through was a lie but to even hear her side of the story, this late in the game (8 months to be exact)  is an obvious publicity stunt. She has two singles from her upcoming album release floating on the airwaves. Even after her battered photo was released and the countless times Chris has made appearances on national news outlets, she still remained silent. That pretty much told me she was healing in private and wanted to move on and not make her personal life a public news topic. I respected that desicion and thought she would stick to it. Had it been her talking about it to Rocsi and Terrence on the 106 & Park couch, I would have been semi-okay with that. It was a frickin “exclusive” 20/20 interview. I won’t be surprised if Oprah is next but please believe ya girl is NOT watching. It was all for ratings which equals money in her pockets and even more for ABC. Side Note: But I watched so that whole point in this paragraph is null and void, hahahaha! “But I got mind control over Deebo!”

Seriously, I just want us as an ‘American people’ to stop allowing celebrities to dictate when an issue becomes a nationwide problem. Yes it is HORRIBLE that Chris brown laid ONE FINGER on Rihanna. But what about that woman in Topeka, Kansas (hypothetically speaking), who’s alcoholic husband beats her senseless everyday? What about that teenage girl who’s threatened frequently by her boyfriend that death is the only way she’s going to break up with him? Why aren’t we highlighting on 20/20 exclusive interviews with non-profit organizations that specialize in abused runaways or battered women? Why are we not focusing on broadcasting safehouses, shelters or hotlines on a regular-basis and not only when a celebrity is beaten or someone DIES? *steps down from soapbox with a side eye look on her face*

I’m done. You don’t have to agree but I wrote it and I’m officially over it.